Man Receives Suicide Victim’s Heart, Marries Donor’s Widow, and Ends Up Taking His Own Life

In 2008, a man who had received a heart transplant 12 years prior and later married his donor’s widow would end up dying the same way his donor did, according to police. Authorities did not find any evidence of foul play related to the death of 69-year-old Sonny Graham, who died at his home in Vidalia, Georgia. Graham was found on a Tuesday in a utility building located in his backyard. According to special agent Greg Harvey with the Georgia Bureau of Investigation, he suffered a single shotgun wound to the throat. Graham worked as the director of the Heritage Golf Tournament at Sea Pines from 1979 to 1983. He had been on the verge of dying from congestive heart failure by 1995 when he received a call that a matching donor’s heart became available in Charleston, South Carolina.

According to Berkeley County Coroner Glenn Rhoad, the heart belonged to a 33-year-old man named Terry Cottle, who had shot himself. Eternally grateful for his new heart, Graham started writing letters to Cottle’s surviving family to thank them. In 1997, Graham met Cheryl Cottle, his donor’s widow, who was 28, in Charleston.

“I felt like I had known her for years,” Graham told The (Hilton Head) Island Packet for a story in 2006. “I couldn’t keep my eyes off her. I just stared.”

By 2001, Graham had purchased a home for Cheryl and her four kids in Vidalia. Then three years later, they would marry after Graham retired from his job working as a plant manager for Hargray Communications located in Hilton Head.

They had six children and six grandkids across Georgia and South Carolina between the couple’s previous marriages.

Cheryl, who was 39 in 2008, worked at several hospices in Vidalia. According to Graham’s friends, they remembered him for his willingness to reach out and help those in need.

“Any time someone had a problem, the first reaction was, ‘Call Sonny Graham,’ ” said Bill Carson, Graham’s friend for more than 40 years. “It didn’t matter whether you had a flat tire on the side of the road or your washing machine didn’t work. He didn’t even have to know you to help you.”

This case raised questions regarding the existence of genetic memory and the impact it could have on transplant recipients. Below, you can watch an in-depth video exploring this bizarre case.