We have to make decisions every day and some of those decisions are going to involve raising our children. Anytime we have children in our lives, it becomes a hot topic of discussion that sometimes is debated fiercely.
This is especially true when it comes to bullying. We all had to face it when we were children in some way or another and now we are adults, we had to face it in a different way.
Perhaps that is why the following story touched so many nerves. It involves a mother who invited all of the girls in the class to a birthday party but she neglected to invite one of them. It was due to the fact that the little girl was a bully. How do you feel about this?
My (28 female) and husband (29 male) have a daughter Payton (7 female).
Payton goes to a small school with 20 kids in her grade. Her birthday party is next month and we sent out invitations to her friends at school. We invited the whole class except one student.
The student we did not invite has bullied Payton several times (we’ve had meetings with the school and parents). Obviously Payton doesn’t want this kid at her party.
The other girls mother called me to talk about it saying how now her daughter is crying she was the only kid not invited and everyone at school is talking about the party. (Payton’s parties are known by her classmates to be very over the top). I explained her daughter isn’t nice to my daughter and that’s the reason she wasn’t invited (the mother knows this). The mother said I’m teaching my child to be a “bully” and use her wealth to make friends. I disagreed.
The mother then asked if she had her daughter apologize and write Payton a letter we could reconsider. I told her we would not and it has become a big deal every time I see the mom.
Edit for questions:
Invitations were not handed out in the classroom. I handed them to parents directly.
I’ve seen a few people ask exactly what kind of bullying has occurred. So I’ll give a couple examples from last year and this year.
one time Payton came home crying because the little girl was so mean to her. Telling her she wasn’t pretty, too chubby, etc.
Payton has come home crying several times because the girl has told her there’s no way she’s a cheerleader (Payton does cheering on weekends) because she wasn’t “pretty”.
she has told Payton she couldn’t play with the rest of the girls in the class when they were all playing jump rope at recess. The other girls told her to let Payton play so when it was Payton’s turn the girl purposely got her “out” by not swinging the rope nicely. The teacher saw that happen.
she’s called Payton a cry baby.
And this is only a couple of the incidents that happened.